Think of your site as the nucleous of a spider web. When you 1st launch your site, it has a single link from you to the next spider link. What you need is a MASS amount of spider links heading back to your site so all the search engines can find you.
In order to do that, you need links. High Quality, High Traffic, backlinks.
Take the advise of "pekinwebguy"
Get your web name wherever you can. It's a looong journey and takes 1000's of hours of work and 100's of G.b. of web usage but if you want to succeed you will endure.